Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Have you ever felt like you were second string? I know that I have had that feeling before and I don't like that feeling. That makes you feel so insecure about everything. ie...why don't they like? what did I do? am I not good enough? As adults we learn to deal with those feelings and realize that we should not let other people determine how we feel about ourselves. Yes we often fall into the trap of doubting ourselves but then we "put on our big girl panties" and move on realizing that we are important and valuable human beings. Now with that being said, how do you deal with your child possibly feeling like they are second string, second choice for something whether it be in a friendship, activity or whatever. I am getting a taste of that and I do not like it. I, of course think that my daughter is phenomenal. I know that in reality she is no more important in the grand scheme of things than anyone else but in my "mommy" mind she is the best. It really hurts to see my daughter be left out of something or be second choice. Right now, I dont even think that she realizes that she is second choice, but to me it is obvious. All I can do is help teach her to have good self esteem and not have her self worth based on what other people think of her. Now the only delima is - how do I teach her that??????
WellI haven't posted since September and alot has happened. Thanksgiving Christmas New Years Valentines etc. March 13th _ Madison turned 5. The day before her actual birthday, we had her birthday party at the bowling alley. She had an absolute blast. That night when I put her to bed she gave me a hug and said "You are the best Mommy ever. Thank you for everything today. Mommy, I will never be too old to be your baby doll." Then I am left sobbing over my 5 year old. I am very blessed to have this precious little girl in my life. Tucker is now 18 months old. Wow! he is growing too quick. He is now saying "Tank Tu" (thank you) and he gives the best kisses, whether you ask for one or not. He also plays peekaboo. He covers your face and says "wheredyougo" (where did you go) and then says "dareyouare" (there you are). Too cute. Tucker is in an extra lovey stage right now. In the mornings he is so extra sweet and letting you hold him. Love that part of this stage he is in.